Saturday, August 21, 2010

Indiana 2010

My future BIL got a job as an engineer for Cummins based in Columbus, IN, and my sister spent the summer working and living there before heading back to Michigan Tech in the fall. We decided to pay them and a law school friend a visit. Kate is getting used to road trippin' it now. Part of our adventures included a ridiculously fun trip to the Children's Museum of Indianapolis. Everyone should go there at least once. The theme during our visit was "Stars, Cars and Guitars." An '80s rock band greeted us near the entrance, and Kate began bopping while still strapped in her stroller. Must.dance.now. Then she toured the rest of the place, stacking these blocks past her own reach.


Brittany and I were most excited for this exhibit for obvious reasons. There was even a Barbie fashion show with a runway, paparazzi and a crowd of spectators. Kate wore a pink tutu.

Fortunately, we also got to have dinner and lunch the following day with my best friend from law school (BFFLS), Jon, and his parents. It was their first time meeting our little. There was a lot of mutual admiration flowing between Jon and Kate (no; not THAT "Jon and Kate.")

His parents were so lovely to us and to our Kate. We are so glad we got to catch up a bit.

Friday, August 20, 2010

Minneapolis and a Wedding

We packed up our swagger wagon and headed up to Minneapolis for the wedding of our good friends, Travis and Amber. Our first stop was for dinner in Turkeyville, MI. Hellooooo! Are we having fun yet?

Waiting somewhat impatiently to boogie down at the wedding reception. Why are these adults wasting their time eating and talking when there is "Y-M-C-A," "Greased Lightnin,'" "Brown Eyed Girl" and "Ice, Ice Baby" to dance to?

The hotel we stayed in had an indoor/outdoor water park. Kate (and C) had a blast in the whirlpool, water slides and tubing on the rapids. Me, I flew down a tube-like water slide at lightning speeds, landing head first into the water below with a painful water up the nose experience. Kate kept asking for the "wa-wa!"


While C hung out with the bridal party taking photos, I visited a childhood friend and her family in a charming neighborhood near downtown Minneapolis. Gretchen is only a few months older than Kate, and Bridgett is 5.

We headed to a local public park near their neighborhood where the girls enjoyed digging in the sand, splashing and trying to assert their independence.


The day after the wedding, we decided to check out this.

Holy crap! There is a whole amusement park in this mall filled with all of Kate's favorite Nick Jr. characters.

Daddy took her on all of the rides, b/c Mommy cannot take the spinning. It makes her vomit.


A tired Kate Monster on the ride back to the hotel, clutching her special Itty Bitty Twin American Girl doll.

And....a spontaneous side trip to Madison, WI to see the Ablers!

Hi there, Benjamin. He and Kate held hands and plotted to destroy the world together.


His precocious older bro, Matthew.

See daddy! Look at that giraffe.

And the best of all was how she looked when she woke up every morning next to us in the hotel bed. Yes; you are still my baby doll sometimes.

Sunday, July 11, 2010

Mackinac Island

From June 10-13, we visited Mackinac Island and stayed at the historic Grand Hotel, so that I could attend a professional conference. Our hotel stay included daily full breakfasts, a ridiculous lunch buffet and 5-course dinners with live music. Unfortunately, we usually only made it to the 4th course before Kate declared "all done," and gestured to be removed from her high chair. She danced in her seat to the live music, making the staff giggle. When one of the nearly all Jamaican staff asked her what her name was, she replied, "me!" Of course!
















She loved exploring the grounds and running the length of the gigantic porch. We also went to a butterfly house and ate some of the famous fudge. Other conference attendees noticed her and gave us many compliments. The weather did not cooperate to do as much outdoors as we would have liked. All in all, it was a fun time, but I am not sure we would return with her, until she is old enough to enjoy the children's activities starting at age 5.

Sunday, March 21, 2010

Kate is 19 months Old.


Kate turned 19 months old on Friday. I am a little behind on posting her 18 month happenings. At 18 months, she was 27 lbs (85%) and 33 3/4 inches long (96%). She seems to be learning a new word or phrase every day. She says "What's that?" constantly and sometimes adds "over there" to her phrase. She also says "I see that!" We taught her to make animal sounds for cow, sheep, owl, dog, cat, lion and others I know I am forgetting. She says "up" whether she wants to be picked up or to get down. And she points to most of her body parts in response to us naming them: Head, hair, eyes, ears, mouth, nose, feet, belly, hand, etc. She often claps to congratulate herself afterward. She continues to love books--whether it be having them read to her or sitting quietly while she thumbs through them herself and pretends to read. She added a few dance moves and now looks like a Kate Monster when she dances. But she dances to her own beat! Since the weather improved, all she wants to do is go outside on the deck, walk around the neighborhood, go to the park or ride on the back of Dada's bike. When I arrive home from work, she grabs my hand and leads me to the front door for our next adventure. Love her!!


Friday, January 29, 2010

Enjoying the Small Things.

I thought you might want to read Kelle Hampton's most recent blog posts from her blog entitled "Enjoying the Small Things." She is a professional photographer and former teacher based in Florida who is also a Michigan native. She is also the daughter of the pastor who married us and the mother of 2 young girls. One week ago, she gave birth to a daughter with Down's Syndrome. She chronicles her life's journey in beautiful words and photography, and I think it is a special place to visit.

Thursday, January 21, 2010

Another Reason to Move it and Lose it--Doctors Hate Fat Women

Health.com's Ginny Graves offers interesting insight into another reason why it is unhealthy to be obese or overweight in her article "The Surprising Reason why being Overweight isn't Healthy." Being just 13 pounds overweight as a woman (i.e., 13 lbs above your highest healthy weight measured by BMI) can result in health care discrimination based on weight. To put this in perspective, as a 5'9" woman, I could be discriminated against if I weighed as little as 182 lbs.

Beyond the humiliation of being treated with less courtesy or attention, this healthcare discrimination can be harmful or even deadly. Recent studies confirmed what many people suspect through anecdotal evidence: Medical professionals tend to misdiagnose, refuse to treat and fail to detect serious medical issues impacting overweight women. One Harvard Medical School professor commented that doctors tend to be more dismissive and less patient with overweight people, rendering them prone to diagnostic errors as a result of clouded judgment. This attitude also discourages overweight patients from seeking needed preventative care or follow up on a health concern, leading to more serious health emergencies from neglect.

Some doctors refuse to operate on or treat patients beyond a certain weight threshold. They do this to keep their success rates high and to avoid difficult and time consuming procedures. This occurs with respect to needed surgeries, organ transplants, infertility treatments and important diagnostic tests such as heart catheterizations.

Granted, obese patients present practical problems for medical professionals and diagnostic equipment like ultrasound, mammogram and CT scanners. The more layers of fat, the harder to get an accurate image, and the more difficult for a surgeon to operate successfully. Morbidly obese patients may be too large to fit in a machine or pose a large recovery risk from an organ transplant. Larger patients often receive false positives leading to costly tests and treatment for suspected breast cancer.

Perhaps the most startling was in cancer treatment. Because cancer trials are based on average weight people, oncologists do not know how to accurately adjust chemotherapy drug dosages to treat overweight women. This could be one reason why their mortality and recurrence rate is higher than in normal weight women.

Being overweight myself and a person who has struggled with weight issues her whole life, I find myself angry at the injustice of being treated like a 2nd class patient and being labeled as "lazy," "noncompliant," or "undisciplined" when I am not. However, like a smoker, a person who abuses food cannot expect to pay the same insurance premiums as a healthy weight person who does not smoke. But I have to wonder if smokers are denied access to expensive medical procedures, organ transplants, etc., until they successfully quit? Do they experience the same level of derision from their health care providers, leading to misdiagnoses? I do think there are some ethical issues involved--e.g., do you give a needed organ to an obese person when the possibility of a bad health outcome is higher than for a healthy weight person equally in need of that organ?

What do you think about this type of bias? Warranted? An injustice? A little of both?

Friday, January 1, 2010

The New Year.

I am doing this for the 2nd year in a row. Feel free to post your own answers, either in the comments or on your own blog! Here are mine:

1. What did you do in 2009 that you’d never done before?
Co-hosted family Christmas celebrations at our house, became the mother of a toddler, co-hosted a kid's birthday party

2. Did you keep your new year’s resolutions, and will you make more for next year?
Through calorie restriction and eventually increased exercise, I am trying to lose a total of 35 pounds (non-baby weight) by August 2010. I have lost 12 pounds so far.

3. Did anyone close to you give birth?

Rashmi and Rohit (Ishaan), Holly & Joel (Liam), Rusty & Jayme (Mason), Stacy & Ray (Sara), and Belen and Rich (Isabella).

4. Did anyone close to you die?
No.

5. Where did you travel in 2009?
To Harrisonburg, VA, Virginia Beach, VA, and Washington, DC, in March to visit my in-laws, see my husband's alma mater and visit with the Showalters. Over Labor Day weekend, we went to Manitowoc, WI to visit our good friends, the Ablers.


6. What would you like to have in 2010 that you lacked in 2009?
A healthy BMI, a cleaner house and more pleasure reading done

7. What dates from 2009 will remain etched upon your memory, and why?
6/25/09--the date pop music legend Michael Jackson died of sudden cardiac arrest. The first news reports seemed like a hoax. I grew up listening to his music, admiring his Geri curls and trying to emulate his dance moves. The Thriller music video changed the way music was marketed forever.
8/19/09--Kate's first birthday. We celebrated the fact that we kept her alive for an entire year by making sure she received her scheduled vaccinations.

8. What was your biggest achievement of the year?
Kate's first birthday and party; losing 12 pounds in 1.5 months.

9. What was your biggest failure?
Our messy, disorganized house; not exercising enough; having the TV on too much

10. Did you suffer illness or injury?
Around the time of my birthday, I injured my pelvic joint during a yogalates class at the Y. It seems to have swelled and now flairs up after carrying Kate around a lot on that side or after walking longish distances. I also have fluctuating high blood pressure and high cholesterol I am trying to address through losing weight and eating healthier. Read: Less cheese and smaller portions. Otherwise, our household has so far avoided the dreaded H1N1.

11. What was the best thing you bought?
Infared backyard grill, materials to build a backyard deck

12. Whose behavior merited celebration?
Our family's--for understanding our inability to spend the holidays with everyone at once and for showering Kate with affection, attention and many, many thoughtful and generous gifts.

13. Whose behavior made you appalled and depressed?
The people involved in helping my brother learn have failed him. The Gosselin family's extremely public divorce and cries for attention, The Octomom's decision to have 8 children and her fertility doctor's decision to implant 6 embryos at once, the balloon boy's parents' decision to stage a costly publicity stunt, the Nigerian radical who nearly blew his nuts off by attempting to detonate an explosive device on an international flight into Detroit and the military psychiatrist in Fort Hood who opened fire, killing and wounding several people.

14. Where did most of your money go?
House, food, savings and deck

15. What did you get really, really, really excited about?
Kate's development--crawling, walking, talking, eating a variety of foods, developing a sense of humor and a goofy personality. I was also excited to see her reactions on Christmas morning and to watch her play with other children her age. I also loved spending time with my best friend's family around Christmas and watching Kate interact with her nephews.

16. What song will always remind you of 2009?
Something off the Ziggy Marley "Family Time" CD for sure. It gets played over and over in our car. "Walk tall; walk tall; even if you fall, get up!"

17. Compared to this time last year, are you:
a) happier or sadder? Happier
b) thinner or fatter? Thinner

18. What do you wish you’d done more of?
Reading a real book, exercising, gone out without Kate

19. What do you wish you’d done less of? Worried, being passive, surfing the internet, watching TV

20. How did you spend Christmas?
Chris really decked our halls this year. Kate's Gram and uncles Bill and Matthew celebrated with us in Mason, and Chris (sometimes with his Mom's help) cooked elaborate feasts each night. I did what I am much better at--washed the dishes. Kate was so wound up from spending time with her family the first night, that she could not fall asleep. Uncle Bill bought our family a high quality Lionel train set modeled after the Polar Express that brought Chris to tears. Kate learned to say "Nigh-Nigh" to everyone when she went to bed. A few days later, we exchanged presents with my Mom's side of the family at my Grandma's house, and Kate had her first taste of an Armenian dessert--Halva. Chris also made Armenian shortbread cookies this year among many other treats traditional to his side of the family. We celebrated Christmas at Thanksgiving with my Dad's side of the family at his house this year. Kate received so many presents that she had to take a nap while we finished opening them.

21. Did you fall in love in 2009?
More and more deeply every day with Kate and with Chris.

22. What was your favorite TV program?
We still watch "Grey's Anatomy," "Desperate Housewives" and "Brothers & Sisters." I think "The Big Bang Theory," "Modern Family," "The Family Guy" and "The Cleveland Show" are also becoming fast favorites. We also bought and watched Seasons 1-3 of "The Muppet Show" with Kate, who loves it.

23. Do you hate anyone now that you didn’t hate this time last year?
No.

24. What was the best book you read?
Sadly, I started to read "The Year of Living Biblically," a secular Jewish author's take on his attempt to live the bible literally for a year, as part of a 2-person book club. Neither of us has made it through it yet. I think I do most of my reading on line, and it is mostly news and child development-related.

25. What was your greatest musical discovery?
Does children's music count?


26. What did you want and get?
Comfy slippers, a Tassimo one-cup coffee brewer, a sweater, make-up, a bathroom scale, an outdoor shed, Christmas PJs, money

27. What did you want and not get?
Pilates mat and exercise DVDs

28. What was your favorite film of this year?
"The Hangover" or "Up."

29. What did you do on your birthday, and how old were you?
On my birthday, Chris cooked me a lobster tail and steak dinner, and I attended a yogalates class at the Y. The weekend of my birthday, we enjoyed a discounted meal at Opus One because of Detroit's first annual Restaurant Week. I was 34.

30. What one thing would have made your year immeasurably more satisfying?
A cleaner and more well-organized house. Otherwise, I am pretty satisfied.

31. How would you describe your personal fashion concept in 2009?
Shirts long enough to cover the gap between my natural waist and the waist of low rider pants. These pants were not made for people with long torsos and big butts, and the baby doll style shirts just make me look pregnant. As I have been losing weight, I am just belting up my old pants and wearing larger shirts, until my shoulders, arms, butt and hips follow suit.

32. What kept you sane?
Sleep, Chris's voice of reason and being able to talk and write about it with myself and friends as we exercise together. Also--doing something instead of just talking about it.

33. Which celebrity/public figure did you fancy the most?
Bradley Cooper from "The Hangover"

34. What political issue stirred you the most?
The state legislature's inability to reach a budget compromise and ongoing problems concerning that subject. At the federal level--the debate over publicly-funded and mandated health insurance. I was also happy that the state legislature finally mandated smoke-free restaurants and bars with a few exceptions.

35. Who did you miss?
My Papa.

36. Who was the best new person you met?
Chris and I both enjoyed getting to know Amy and Beau better this year and meeting Belen and Rich.

37. Tell us a valuable life lesson you learned in 2009.
One of the hardest and most important things you can be as a parent is consistent.

38. Quote a song lyric that sums up your year.

From Ziggy Marley's "I Love you Too"--

When you smile I'll smile along
When you cry my comfort comes

When you walk I'll be beside you
Holding your hands
When the sun come out we play
I'll never be far away
When you tell me that you love me
This is what I'm gonna say

I love you too, I love you too
I tell you I love you
I love you too, I love you too
I love you